Ever not been able to cross off everything on your to-do list at the end of the day? I’m willing to bet you anything that the phrases “I’m too busy”, “There is no time” and “It’s too late for that now” has crossed your mind time and time again.
Taking a step back let us identify our daily important tasks as “big picture goals”. The majority of us willingly choose to first focus on non-important goals (or “little picture goals”) and activities that take up most of our time and save the big picture goals for last.
Evidently, the problem here is procrastination.
The more you push the big picture goals to the end of your to-do list, the more and more likely you’ll find a way to not face them. Some people suggest that finishing the little picture goals first builds confidence. But think about it again this way: The big picture goals require the most attention and energy from you, saving them until the end means you’ll be strained for time towards the end of your day and attacking it when you have the least amount of energy. Ultimately, you’re building up more stress and not accomplishing your goals.
Attacking the big picture goals first drives your motivation level to new peaks because you’re accomplishing tasks with true urgency and impact–challenging yourself to face the lion early. Having fought the fight you did early in the day, accomplishing the little picture goals later on in your day will come at more ease. Best yet, you’ll be way more likely to cross off everything on that to-do list.
Still not enough time you say? Look, by already having fulfilled your big picture goals you’ll have maximized the use of your time and feel much more accomplished. Sometimes it isn’t always about getting through the to-do list in its entirety but rather, optimizing your strategy to make the greatest impact on the results. So give yourself a pat on the back for addressing the big elephant in the room.
Now don’t just sit there, take advantage of the benefits prioritizing your big picture goals will bring you. Take a minute right now to write down your morning goal for tomorrow. This could be the 5k run you used to do every morning but now “cannot find time for” because of school or getting your pre-lecture readings done for class that just “puts you to sleep” at the end day.
Completing big picture goals first thing in the morning is the foundation for building motivation throughout the rest of your day. Carefully select important tasks that will require more of your attention to complete because of its difficulty and make an effort to write it down and commit to it even if it’s the one thing you do that day. Prioritizing tasks is breakfast for the mind; you’ll start off strong and finish off stronger. Give it a shot and you’ll realize how great it feels to be carefree for rest of your day.
How silly of us to be hurting ourselves on the regular basis. We do this by misguiding ourselves to only consider the successes of others. Which of course, makes us look back upon ourselves and wonder why the heck we’re so seemingly terrible at what we’re doing. It constantly makes me wonder whether it’s merely a matter of confidence after all these years. The expectations we’ve placed upon ourselves and our lives don’t always match those we’ve laid out for others –it’s tempting to measure success at first glance.
The most important aspect has nothing to do with how we measure success like you might think. However, it has much more to do with the fact that we’re allowing the successes of other’s control our personal accomplishments in life. Just like originality can come from two writers blogging about the same topic and expressing it in completely different styles, what appears to be the same dream shared by two people can still be your very own. As the saying goes… the grass is always greener on the other side. And how blatantly obvious this must sound to all of us. So obvious it is horrifying that we continue to live out our lives based on what everyone else has achieved.
Sometimes blood, sweat and tears is all we see in ourselves –allowing it to diminish the value of our successes. At the same time we neglect the blood, sweat and tears of others. Even if you cannot directly relate to the falls of others, it is crucial to understand that everybody hasn’t got everything figured out and you are most definitely not inferior to anyone.
This doesn’t apply to only one type of success, whether it be career, family or love. Many of us might only spot the families having dinner together on Christmas Eve and it makes us question how our own families should function. But how different we all are when expressing love. Perhaps on Valentine’s Day you find yourself single and at a movie where the theater is filled with couples –do you then ponder the idea of why you are not as sought after as your best friend? In reality, things are rarely what they seem like at first glance and there is no single way for someone to have their life figured out. Stop looking to others for the answer because they don’t have one either. We might even discover that the best way about having our lives figured out is to actively place the focus on self progression rather than everyone else.
I get it though. Some of us are unaware, others just feel like the secret to having perfect lives has been outed to everyone but themselves. Doesn’t it also seem like the people that have it all figured out can always achieve things that appear so out of reach for you? Self-reflection can do us worlds of good but every supposed success of others doesn’t need to equate to re-evaluation of your self worth. While you are able to understand the mistakes of others, there is certainly no reason to think they are not capable of accepting yours.
Sure we have strong tendencies to think “everybody else has their lives figured out (but me)”. Sure on our bad days it appears unfair that the rest of the world is seemingly living in a cloud of bliss filled with cats and rainbows. But I’m most certain, with a little reminder, we can come to terms with the fact that everybody else does not have their lives all figured out. Rest assured that if the above logic all applied and everybody did have their lives figured out –that would mean your life is all figured out as well.